The Time My Dad Threw My Valentines Gift out the Window!
Tomorrow is Valentine's day, and your single. And when I say single, I mean you don't have a backup plan. Bhaha, and even if you do have a backup plan, your still considered single. Your probably thinking about all the things that you could be doing tomorrow to have a perfect valentines day with a boo, and you probably don't even care who the boo is, you just need one.
Honey, let me tell you, it is not worth snatching up anyone just to say you had a valentine's date! You being whole and secure 365 days a year is better than being desperate and possibly heartbroken just for one day! I understand how it feels to go through your news feed and see all the relationship pictures, and feel like "why can't I get that?" and in reality I could, but I would have to settle for something God did not call me to. You have to make a decision in your mind that all those couples that are posing and cheesing on valentines day, may not be together in the next 6 months or so. I am not saying that for all relationships, but sometimes people were thinking the same thing as you, that they wanted a boo for valentines day. Tomorrow maybe the day that people conceive things they were not trying to conceive (if you know what I mean)
I remember back in school, I knew that valentines day was coming up, and my school would sell candy grams and roses for the students to deliver to their friends or partners. So I would purposely seek out a boyfriend before that week (he didn't even have to be all that cute!) so that I could get me a valentines gift. I remember one year, I started to date this boy right before valentines day, and he got me a BIG box of chocolates and a teddy bear! I was like yassss, mission accomplished! I was soo geeked, until the end of the day because I was thinking how in the heck am I suppose to get this past my dad who will be picking me up this afternoon (I was in the 8th grade, and was not allowed to date). Long story short, I was only able to fit the chocolates in my backpack and my dad threw the teddy bear out the window! Hahaha, it is sooo funny now, but you just don't know how I felt that day! (I have more stories like this, I didn't stop there.)
But anyway, through that issue, I lost a lot of trust from my parents and it was not even worth it because I have not talked to that boy in 6 years! I had to build up a trust that is more valuable than a boy! So on a big scale, ladies, your purity, your heart and your purpose is more valuable than just getting a box of chocolates and flowers from a dusty boy/man and a few sweet nothings. Shoot, go by yourself some chocolates and have a movie night with your other single friends, spend time with your family, have a date with God, by reading his word and reading the love story he wrote for you, he wrote you some sweet somethings. Jesus loved us before we even loved him Romans 5:8 says, "But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." Jesus is the greatest lover of our soul, and no man can take that place because he needs Jesus too. Seek God and and the man that is seeking God will find you. The true man won't be worried about your butt "lookin good in dem jeans", or can y'all Netflix and chill, he will want to truly pursue you and pursue God together. Wait for that.
So to close, I would suggest, don't go on social media on that day if it really bothers you to see that. Let it all blow over. It is just for that day.
Be Fearless,
Chyna
